Friday Fodder: Winners and More Giveaways!

On Tuesday, I gave you all the chance to win a copy of the Raising My Rainbow audiobook (released on May 27 by Audible). To enter, all you had to do was tell me something you’ve learned from my book/blog. I had a hard time picking just one winner, so I picked two. Here they are…

SamThis blog helped me become more proud of my choice to try and become a therapist with specialization in the field of gender studies. People may look at me funny when I explain that I want to work with gender creative people and people who are trying to figure out who they are, but that doesn’t matter. All that matters is that someone is out there willing to listen and offer a kind word when so many in our society are fine ignoring or chastising their fellow humans.

LauraOnly one thing I learned from your book/blog?! Finding your blog was like coming home. I struggled for so long to make sure I was being the best parent I could be to my gender creative son and your blog and book validated so many things for me. His Pre-K teachers are reading it and my parents have my copy. My Dad told me the other day that if I wasn’t planning on meeting with my son’s Kindergarten teacher to talk to her before school started that he would! You give me confidence and helped me give my son his voice.

If you didn’t win here, never fear! My two besties are hosting giveaways on their blogs. Check them out here and enter:

My other bestie (not really), Queen Latifah is hosting a giveaway of the audiobook book as well. Read the story about Raising My Rainbow on her site, at the bottom you’ll read how to enter:

In the news this week:

Last summer I had the pleasure of meeting an awesome family that has been blessed with a trans son. Watch this video about them. It’s really moving.


The Transgender Tipping Point, TIME


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Raising My Rainbow Audiobook Giveaway!!!!!

The audiobook version of Raising My Rainbow was released by Audible today.  Yay!

Want a free copy?  Cool, read on to learn how to enter to win.

photo-40Now, I share with you the top five things I learned while narrating the audiobook:

1.  My stomach growls.  A lot.  Loudly.  Even when I’m not hungry.  And, that’s not conducive to the recording process.   Also, the more I think about my stomach growling, the more it growls.  There might be a monster living in there.

2.  Talking for six to eight hours a day over the course of multiple days will make your head hurt worse than your throat.  Go figure.

3.  I pronounce several words incorrectly and use those words quite often when I write.  So, I had to sit and say those words over and over again until my producer got a version that was suitable for use.  No, I will not tell you what those words are.

4.  I was fighting off a cold and the sweet baristas at the nearby Starbucks introduced me to a drink called The Medicine Ball.  I dedicate the audiobook to them (and Matt and the boys and my brother and you).

5.  The “corporate headquarters” of Gretchen Christine, the company founded by Real Housewife of Orange County Gretchen Rossi are next door to the studio where I recorded.  I never saw Gretchen or Slade, try as I might.

To enter to win a copy of the Raising My Rainbow audiobook, leave a comment below telling me one thing you learned from my blog and/or book.  A winner will be announced this Friday.

And, everybody, if you are on Audible, you should totally consider writing a review for the audiobook.  Also, you do not need to have an membership in order to buy the audiobook.

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David Burtka + Lori Duron = Raising My Rainbow Audiobook

Guess what happens on Tuesday?  The audiobook version of Raising My Rainbow will be released by Audible!

Guess who the narrator is?  Me!

I’m grateful that Audible allowed me to narrate the book. It would have been weird to hear someone else owning the words I wrote about my family.  (I just had to get over hating the sound of my own voice.)

Here’s an excerpt from the book before it is released:

Guess who narrated the audiobook’s foreword?  The one and only David Burtka!  I’m forever thankful for the support I’ve received from the Burtka Harris family.  (I like David’s voice much more than my own.)

Listen to David read the book’s foreword here:


And, audible has named Raising My Rainbow an “Editors Select” book for May 2014.  Here, my editor explains why it was selected:

Editors Select, May 2014 – I have been a fan of Lori Duron and her blog, Raising My Rainbow, for a few years now. When I learned that Audible Studios was producing her book based on her blog, I jumped at the chance to review it. Duron’s book (and blog) shares her and her husband’s funny, heartwarming, and at times heartbreaking experiences in raising a gender nonconforming son. C.J., their youngest son, is a boy who prefers stereotypical girl things – girl toys, girl activities, girl clothes. I’m not a parent, but the open and honest way that Duron writes about her family, and in particular C.J., is utterly engaging, and provides excellent advice and life lessons for any human being. Narrated by Duron herself, Raising My Rainbow is full of content that never appeared on her blog – more hilarious C.J. stories, more of her and her husband’s struggles with their parenting decisions, and even a disturbing account of bullying experienced by their older son. This brave memoir teaches that it’s important to fully love the people in your life…no matter what. —Katie, Audible Editor

You can pre-order the audiobook now by clicking here .  (You don’t need to have an subscription to purchase the book.)  

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Tuesday Fodder: Tom Goss, Illuminate the Dark Edition

Things that recently caught and held my attention…

You have got to watch the latest music video from indie musician and human rights activist Tom Goss.  Illuminate the Dark shows that beauty takes many forms and that each individual possesses the ability to be vibrant. With the video, Goss hopes to “help people see one another through the eyes of those that love them.  People judge others all of the time, but if we take the time to see people as their mother, lover or sister sees them, we will begin to see what makes each individual dynamic and beautiful.” Look for an appearance by yours truly, a fabulous redhead and an awesome big brother. 

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This Sunday, I’ll be at the Unitarian Universalist Church of Studio City as part of a panel discussing gender.

What does it mean to be transgender? Gender nonconforming? Gender creative? Genderqueer? What is the gender spectrum and how does it affect the way we live, the language we use, the laws we need, and even our social media interactions?”

Join us to learn from a panel of experts, who became experts through their own personal experiences, including:

  • Lori Duron, author/blogger, RAISING MY RAINBOW
  • Marsha Aizumi, author, TWO SPIRITS, ONE HEART
  • Aiden Aizumi, educator/advocate

Bring your questions, your openness, and your willingness to learn! We will work to create a safe environment where there are no dumb questions!

Click here to learn more about the event, which starts at noon, is free and open to all.

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I’ve been named one of BlogHer’s 2014 Voices of the Year! BlogHer, a 100 million-strong blogging community, received thousands of submissions and selected my blog post “When The Boys’ Room Isn’t Safe For A Boy “ as a winner in the “Heart” category. As a result, WordPress Freshly Pressed the same blog post. Thanks BlogHer and WordPress! Click here to read more and learn who my fellow 2014 Voices Of The Year are.


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The amazing people behind Camp Aranu’tiq (a camp for transgender and gender variant youth ages eight and older and their families) have announced a new fun-filled weekend camp for LGBTQ parents/guardians and their children of any age. Extended family members are welcome, too! Click on a camp name to learn more about Camp Aranu’tiq and/or the LGBTQ Family Camp.

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Title IX protects transgender students, federal agency says 

Parents of young boy in England pulling their child out of an after school club because the club won’t let him wear dresses

The Lord Looks At The Heart: When My Son Became My Daughter

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I hope all of you mothers and adults who mother a child had a very happy Mother’s Day.  C.J. made me a card at school that says he loves me most when I’m cleaning the house. So, there’s that.

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My 10 Year Old Downloaded Grindr

“This app is taking forever to load,” my 10-year-old son Chase said as I was driving. It was just the two of us in the car and he was fiddling with his iPhone*.

“What app is it?” I asked. He isn’t supposed to download anything unless he has our permission.

“It’s called Grindr,” he said. I nearly crashed the car.

iPhone5_Splash“You can’t download that,” I said quickly, full of panic and resisting the urge to reach over and snatch the phone out of his hands. I was certain the app would load faster than any app has loaded in the history of all apps and his profile would be automatically complete and naked selfies of men would flood his phone and his brain.

“I can download it; it’s just taking forever,” he said.

“No. I mean you aren’t allowed to download it. I’m saying no. You’re not old enough and, besides, you didn’t ask for permission.”

“Oh, I’m sorry,” he said. He hates even remotely feeling like he is somewhat near being in trouble.

“It’s okay. Why do you want to download that app anyway?” My panic was fading a little.

“I was looking through lists of the top iPhone apps and I saw that they had a list of the top LGBT apps and that’s so cool that they even have LGBT apps. I wanted to show my support and Grindr was the top LGBT app, so I wanted to download it to show my support for everybody who is LGBT and let Apple know that they should make more LGBT apps,” he explained.

Chase is the best person I know. When he’s old enough, and if he goes that route, some person on a dating app would be lucky to meet him.

“That’s very sweet. That app is for adult gay men who are looking for friends and boyfriends,” I explained.

“That’s cool,” he said.

I reminded him about the rules that came with his phone – including no downloading apps without approval from Matt or me.

Later, when we had a moment to ourselves, I told Matt that our son was loading Grindr to his phone.


Then, I called my brother to tell him.


Chase had the best intentions in mind…and he had a $30 iTunes gift card burning a hole in his pleather wallet. You see, Chase’s birthday is today, May 7. My first-born son, the one who made me a mother, is 11 now. Yesterday I took him on a lunch date. I watched him eat his hamburger. I just stared and stared and stared. He is beautiful to me. I could watch him forever. But he doesn’t want me to. I embarrass him.

He’s a tween. He has a playoff football game this weekend. After much prodding, he asked for a leather jacket and a coffee mug for his birthday. He wants steak for dinner. I took him to buy new sneakers; he now wears a size bigger than mine. I’m helping him become self reliant, but dread the day he leaves the nest.   I love that he loves all people and wants to support the LGBT community. He just can’t show his support by downloading Grindr.

How would you suggest an 11-year-old boy who identifies as straight show his support for the LGBT community?

*To some, the fact that my 11-year-old has an iPhone will be the thing that sticks out to them most in this blog post. I explain myself only to avoid receiving a shit-ton of comments and emails voicing disapproval of this. Chase does not ask for anything. Ever. We have to beg him to write Christmas and birthday wish lists. This past Christmas, the only thing he asked for was an iPhone. We were eligible to get one free from our wireless provider, so we did. And, we gave it to Chase. He deserves it. He’s the awesomest. End of story. Thank you for your concern.

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What’s In My Son’s Purse?

C.J. is very nosy and always wants to know what’s inside other people’s purses. Because it is not okay for him to peek inside the satchels of strangers, I’ve started easing his curiosity by showing him the pages inside popular magazines that list the contents of celebrities’ bags. He loves those lists so much that he wanted me to create one for him and share it with you. Without further ado, here is what’s inside my son’s purse.

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Purse: I made my purse. Well, I didn’t “make it” make it. I colored in the design. I like this purse cause it holds a lot of stuff and I have a lot of stuff to hold. I can also wear it across my body so my hands are free to hold more stuff.

Plastic Show Pony: I got this pony at Disney Princesses On Ice. It’s beautiful and pretty and special. I named it Uni for unicorn. Because it’s like a unicorn, without a horn, so it’s not a unicorn, but I pretend that it is.

The Cat In The Hat Book: I keep it in my purse because I really wanted it and last time I found one it was in Spanish and I finally found it in English. And, I really love The Cat In The Hat.  I can’t read Spanish.

Green Finger Pointer: I like green, it’s one of my favorite colors besides red, purple, pink and rainbow. I use it to point when I pretend that I’m playing school and I’m the teacher. It makes pointing easier. Sometimes I pretend to pick my nose with it and it’s green like boogers.  So, that’s perfect.

Tiny Plush Giraffe: Doesn’t he look like a baby toy? Well, he’s way more than that; he’s also a finger puppet! Can you believe that?!  So, I like it because his tail is fringy and I like his hair. I named him Bobby.

Fancy Lady Head Brooch: She’s diamond-y. Her favorite thing in the whole wide world is diamonds and if she got $1,008 dollars she would spend it all on diamonds and nothing else.

April 2014 017Gingerbread Boy: I made him gender conforming. I like his hair. I gave him green highlights. I like how I made his pants roll up at the bottom. I gave him a HUGE smiley face because he’s always happy like the song “Happy” by Pharrell. I think Pharrell’s hat is crazy-cool.

Pink Bag Of Coins: I want to keep them and save them up and buy something from miWorld. I also told Nana that I wanted something from miWorld so possibly she’ll get it for me and I can save my money. (Don’t tell anybody that this is fake money.)

Anna from Disney’s Frozen: I like her because she talks when you push on her boobs and stomach. Frozen is my favorite movie right now. I like it because two girls save the day and they don’t need a boy. And, I like the dresses that Elsa and Anna wear.

$5: I got a dollar. It’s actually five dollars. I earned this money doing chores for my Pa. I keep it in my purse in case I need more dollars and it’s special because it’s the only five-dollar bill I have. It’s my biggest money I ever got. If I did spend it, I would spend it on a time machine so If I didn’t want to go to school I could just skip ahead and skip it.

April 2014 018Fancy Skeleton Head: It’s a girl, but she has a beard. My daddy gave it to me when he got back from Mexico. It reminds me of Spanish.  My mom’s skeleton head will look this fancy when she dies and her skin falls off.

Harajuku Girl Figurine: Because I like Gwen Stefani and everything Harajuku. They are pretty and super sassy.

Brown Chair: I keep it because it reminds me of a chair at our house.

Fairly Odd Parents Doll: I got it at Chuck E. Cheese’s when I played one game and got 1,000 tickets. Last time I got 100 tickets on the exact same game. You should play that game when you go to Chuck E. Cheese’s. I like his hair. I think it’s cool that he has green hair and I like that he’s a fairy.

iTouch: My mommy gave it to me. It’s my first own electronic thing. My favorite apps are Fruit Ninja, Kick the Dummy, McKenna the American Girl doing gymnastics and any app where you make dresses and do makeovers.

Lip Gloss: Which I can put on right now (applies gloss). I keep it in my purse so that I can put it on when I need to. Like when I go to school. Sometimes I can wear my mom’s lipstick, but only if I ask. I got this lip gloss at Sephora. I love Sephora. You should go there. They have every makeup ever made.

Fake Rat: I use it to scare people. If they try to rob my purse they would see the rat and scream and stop robbing me.

Miniature Gumball Machine: It reminds me of love because the gumballs are heart-shaped and I love it and I love love.

Rainbow Dash From My Little Pony: It reminds me of my mom’s book called Raising My Rainbow.

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Will I See You On Thursday?

This Thursday at 7 p.m., I’ll be speaking at Smith College in Northampton, Massachusetts, about parenting, teaching and promoting advocacy for differently gendered children.  The event is sponsored by The Center School and it’s FREE!

Monte Belmonte from 93.9 & 101.5 The River had me on his show this morning.  You can listen to the interview here.   It was such a fun experience to be interviewed by a fellow parent of a gender creative child!


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