Tears. In. My. Eyes. That’ll teach me to watch CNN. Anderson “Eye Candy” Cooper’s report on “The Sissy Boy Experiment” made my heart break. Snapped right into tiny pieces.
“The Sissy Boy Experiment” was experimental therapy conducted on a five-year-old boy named “Kraig” in the 1970s at UCLA in an attempt to make him less effeminate and prevent him from growing into a gay adult. It was government-funded and considered to be a great success; even though the family says that it was disastrous, the boy grew up to be gay and, then, committed suicide, but not on his first attempt.
Catch up on the CNN coverage here: http://www.cnn.com/2011/US/06/07/sissy.boy.experiment/index.html
For more in-depth coverage of this story, Box Turtle Bulletin has a thorough examination of the impact that this “research” had on Kirk Murphy (“Kraig”) and his family. http://www.boxturtlebulletin.com/
Also on CNN, Ann Coulter declined to answer Piers Morgan when he asked what she would do if she had a gay child. For me, her silence confirms that she shouldn’t have children. But, that’s just me. http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/blogs/abraham/detail?entry_id=90553
God, grant me the serenity to be a better mother than Ann Coulter would be and the courage not to send my child to UCLA to be experimented on; and, wisdom, because we are different. Oh, and, watch over Anderson Cooper, too. Amen.
I stupidly followed those links, how utterly heartbreaking 😦
I’ve read your book and I am now slowly going through each and every one of your blog posts from the beginning, you are an amazing Mum, and your husband is an amazing father.
My partner and I are raising a 5 year old gender nonconforming child and your book helped me to realize that we are not alone, and for the record, I am so very proud of our transgender daughter. 🙂
Did you know the self-hating group GOProud (don’t know if they’re affiliated with the gay Log Cabin Republicans) asked Coulter to be a keynote speaker at their convention in Dallas?
If you are a reader, I highly recommend John Colapinto’s “As Nature Made Him”, the true story of male identical twins. During a circumcision, one twin’s penis was BURNED OFF, so his parents decided to raise him as a girl, ‘Brenda’, never telling him he had been born a boy. Needless to say, the experiment failed horrifically!
And yes, I too love this blog.
I just found your blog and really love it – I’m the mother of a 2 1/2 little boy and I try to let him experiment everything – without regards to what « gender it was made for ». And so, for now, he really loves to play with his truks as he likes to play with his baby (which he breastfeeds or ask me to), read books, paint, play outside…. I think it’s important to let children explore the world that suround them and, in that, I find your blog very inspiring. Thanks.
Like JamieLea, I found your blog via this article: http://nyti.ms/iD1dD2. While I cannot personally relate to your situation, I just wanted to say that I love your blog. God bless you for loving your son.
I wish that evil woman would have continued to keep her mouth shut. She said later to Sean Hannity that if her son were gay, she’d tell him he was adopted.
Of course the loathsome Ann Coulter couldn’t answer the question. She is totally baffled as to why we are raising our young instead of eating them, the way they do back on her home, The Planet of the Spiders.
On a happier note, I’m not usually a fan of “cute”, but your blog has more “aww”s per column inch than I’m used to. It’s parents like you that give me hope that humanity will survive. Almost makes me want to have a spawn of my own. Almost. lol
Oh, and Ann… Just say “NO” to the little black cocktail dress. It was fine 15 years ago when you first arrived on this planet. Now you just look like Skeletor in drag.
As a woman who is a proud fag hag and a bisexual lady, your blog moves me to tear, laughter and some awws. I do want to tell you though that when I talked to my best gay friend (one of two, the other is his partner and has been since high school, in fact, I was the first person he ever told he was gay) some two years ago about being little and gay he said “I had the most ‘girlfriends’ in pre-school because I would always hang out with the girls doing dress-up or “Barbie” (this is in the late 80’s-early 90’s, Salt Lake City) so they wanted to be with a boy that had their interests. Even then, although I never said it, I wanted to scream “I want to be you, not be with you!” I think if your son does grow up to be gay (or not) he will be so proud that his mom said its okay to be like the girls instead of ‘with them’.
Just stumbled on this blog after reading NYT article: http://nyti.ms/iD1dD2. I absolutely love the name of your blog and am so grateful that there are parents out there who are willing to be outside the box and love their kids like mad, whoever they are. I’m just a girl in my early 20s, married, no kids…yet, no real personal connection to this story, except that i am grateful that we aren’t all the same, how boring would that be. Best!
Hello, to a beautiful family.
I am an American, Gay, Teacher, 36 years with my partner,20 years in Thailand, and 65 years on this earth who has been marveling at your writing.
My comment is not about this post. It is about your blog. You, CJ’s Dad, brother and CJ have made me feel that there is hope for the future…as sucky as it may look to be. I wish you the best for all of your lives. In this land, the “third gender” is a part of life. It is not always accepted completely, but it is part of life. May your writing help to bring that about in more of the world. I wish I could give all of you a hug…
Be strong, don’t let anyone deter you, your family, your kids. Love to CJ’s brother.
Hi, I’m new to your blog. I think you are truly a beautiful mother. Last year my son, Aiden, our first child, past away 17 days before his due date. He was born and laid to rest in August.
God forbid Ann Coulter has a gay child. If Aiden were here and grew up to become a straight, gay, bisexual, or transgendered man I would love and support him with all my being. I look forward to following along and learning more about you and C.J.
I watched the report, so sad. I just want to go out and educate as many people as possible in hopes of protecting my child and other children around the world. No child should have to endure what “Kraig” did. As his sister said, children deserve protection, love, and unconditional support. I hope somewhere his spirit is free and his heart is happy.
Thank you for your blog always, it continues to be a source of strength and information 🙂
How easy it would have been to write the script on Rekers. In the end, he was a closeted gay man – a victim not of an organized experiment, but of an unaccepting era and community, which drove him to seek a “cure” for others. Underneath all of the “peels” of his onion, he was trying to cure himself through his victims, or possibly was just very bitter and shamed, and wanted to share his own torture with others. A “misery loves company” scenario that drove him to destroy peoples’ lives? This is a horrible story, and as a parent I am so happy to now be in an era where very few would find such experiments acceptable. Is it time to go home yet? I’m trembling with the need to hug my child.
Ditto on your comment, you said it perfectly. Thank you.
Although… some people will still try to control their children 😦 and believe what they are doing is best.
The last two nights after watching AC360 I’ve come straight here to remind myself that not everyone thinks the way George Rekers does. Bless you.
Personally I hope Ann Coulters silence was due to the fact that she had never been asked that before and was a revelation moment for her to realize that if she ever may dare to reproduce, that she very well may have a gay child and will have to raise that child and love it. That is my hope for that anyways.
I wish people who reproduced were held to some obligation to raise and love their children, even if they turn out to be GLBT, but unfortunately even that isn’t the case. I had a dear friend in high school who had come out of the closet at 13 and been…I wish I were making this up…LEGALLY DISOWNED by her parents. They contacted CPS and relinquished all parental rights and claims to their own child. She was placed into a foster home and continued to go to the same school as her sister, who still lived with the parents. The whole situation made me sick to my stomach every time I saw them within a hundred feet of one another. The lengths to which some people will go to avoid dealing with the fact that their children are gay never fails to appall me. 😦
God, grant me the serenity to be a better mother than Ann Coulter would be and the courage not to send my child to UCLA to be experimented on; and, wisdom, because we are different.
Based on what I’ve read of your blog, I’d say God answered that prayers years ago. May He continue to bless you.
Couldn’t look at any of those links. Too upset about the experiment. How a.w.f.u.l.