Maybe Brown Lip Gloss Just Isn’t the Right Color for Our Son

Nana Grab Bags bought C.J. a new lip gloss on a necklace; which is his fav-o-rite accessory this season. Here it is with the lip gloss closed.

And, here it is with the café mocha-flavored lip gloss exposed.

I pointed out to Nana Grab Bags that the lip gloss girl looks like she is taking a crap and my son rubs said crap on his face. This is what C.J. looks like with the lip gloss on.

C.J.’s Dad came home from work and saw C.J. and followed me out of earshot into the kitchen.

“Has C.J. been eating shit sandwiches?”

“No, it’s his new lip gloss. It’s café mocha flavored. My mom bought it for him,” I explained.

He walked out of the room shaking his head and passed C.J. who flashed him his best brown smile.

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Have 13 minutes and 14 seconds to spare this weekend? Watch this video. The lives of little boys like C.J. depend on it.

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16 Responses to Maybe Brown Lip Gloss Just Isn’t the Right Color for Our Son

  1. Pam says:

    To add to the15 second comment a teacher could make…
    “I am not sure why you feel the need to put anyone down, but that word is not OK for anything in my classroom. Are we good here?”

  2. Mitch Harp says:

    You should put a warning on some posts saying, “This post is incredibly funny. If you are currently seated in a library, you should warn everyone around you that you are about to burst out laughing hysterically,” because that is what just happened to me when I read “I pointed out to Nana Grab Bags that the lip gloss girl looks like she is taking a crap and my son rubs said crap on his face. This is what C.J. looks like with the lip gloss on.”

    Just sayin.’ 🙂

  3. Shelley says:

    I’m so glad I found your blog. I am a sister to two fantastic, amazing, loving & wonderful brothers – both of whom happen to be gay. I have a daughter who is growing up in a family where that’s just another branch of her family tree. She’s only 5, but she knows they are gay, and she knows (an age appropriate amount of information) about what that means. Gramma pinches her cheek, Nonna likes to garden, her favorite uncles A & H have boyfriends, and Granddad tells silly jokes. Right now, it’s that simple for her, and I’m doing everything I can to help her maintain that worldview. I really hope that this next generation will make the huge strides required so that we finally do see a new & improved society where people can love without judgement.

    Whatever C.J. grows up to be, he’s going to have a strong foundation of love and acceptance due to the amazing job you are doing as his mother (and his Dad & brother are no slouches, either.) I know that even in the best of circumstances it’s easy to second guess yourself when it comes to parenting, but I just wanted to add my .02 and let you know that I think you’re doing a wonderful job of it. You are lucky to have C.J., and C.J. is definitely lucky to have you.

    Stay strong, girl, and don’t let the bastards get you down. 😉

  4. Kat says:

    The lip gloss is very funny. Thanks for sharing the video. It has such an important message.

  5. Christy says:

    Like the women here have said in this CNN video, be mindful of our children, protect our children and model respect and tolerance.

    Thank you CJ’s mom, I had not seen the video 🙂

  6. I laughed about the “shit” sandwich comment – it is such a “Dad” comment to make. BTW, he has adorable dimples!

    Another of our children lost to self-violence induced by bullying. I am so sad and angry and tired of it all – what is so hard for the narrow-minded to grasp? Your words and actions KILL. If you’re a parent of a bully, do something to save your child and someone else’s.

  7. Emily says:

    Well my comment has to do with the lip gloss, not to minimize the importance of watching the video. What I want to know is, how does CJ feel about wearing it as a necklace? Then no one need ever know about the lip gloss girl taking a dump!!

  8. Stephanie Baker-Harden says:

    I liked the women that were on the show pointing out how insane it is that Kentucky (and others) are supporting the bullies. I also loved Coopers point that if someone used the N word they would get in trouble but the F word gets a pass. Very true. I hope we wise up to the fact that this happens and shouldnt be tolerated. EVERY child should be protected and as a teacher we know that without basic necessities such as food and a feeling of safety children cant effectively learn (maslows hierarchy of needs). I worry for the CJs of the world and pray that they have a support group that can help them deal with the ignorant, intolerant masses that they will encounter.

  9. Chris says:

    What happened to the post about outing people not being cool? I got a notification for it but the link just says it can’t find it. I didn’t get to read it.

  10. I wish i had th epower of foresight and could have helped in some way :*( This is so sad

  11. Allison says:

    So very sad. It’s not bullying if it promotes their “values” or bigoted agenda!?! There is something seriously wrong with our society when we are allowing an entire political party to spew the hatred they do. I don’t know if I feel hopeful or hopeless when watching this…

    • Mark says:

      Hi Allison, unfortunately it’s just not one party as some would like you to believe. It’s our entire system, and the fact that the other party I believe you’re talking about really says nothing merely contributes to it. i mean, they say all the nicey-nice words of being people people, helping the most vulnerable, but in my view they’ve done nothing to assist a system so that this doesn’t happen. They have a good marketing schtick, but there’s no substance to the ‘new and improved’ version that is anything different than the old one they’ve trotted out. But to be fair to your main point, there is indeed something seriously wrong with our society.

      • Allison says:

        Yes, Mark, while I agree with you that a lot of the nicey nice words are just that, there is definitely, in my opinion, a faction that has been allowed to infiltrate a political party that is loud and strong and unwavering in their hatred of anything unlike themselves. And, I don’t agree that the other party is doing nothing…legislation, campaigns, and education are all little steps in the right direction (so to speak). So, yes, bigots are everywhere, on all sides, but they are without a doubt found more in conservative groups, whether they own up to being bigots or not.

  12. NotoriousDSG says:

    Hey, I was wondering if you saw the season finale of Curb Your Enthusiasm and what your thoughts were? Amongst my gay friends there’s wide disagreement over how the show handled the issues surrounding gender creativity and of course, I immediately thought of you!

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