I’m back on the mainland after a six-day holiday in Kauai, Hawaii, with C.J.’s brother. It was so nice to spend time one-on-one with my oldest son. My hubby also liked having alone time to bond with C.J. Mental note: If it’s so good for the family, I’ll have to vacay in exotic locales more often.
A trip to the ABC Store proved fruitful as always. We arrived home bearing gifts: chocolate covered macadamia nuts, Kona coffee, key chains, necklaces with shark teeth and a hula dancer costume for our dress-up collection.
The grass skirt, lei and top have required I add a few lines to the list of Things I Never Thought I’d Say To My Son:
• Daddy can’t have another hula lesson right now, he’s grilling dinner.
• No, I don’t have any boobies to give you to put in the bikini top.
• You can’t wear the grass skirt in the pool or it will get ruined.
• Yes, you look like a real hula girl.
• I’m sorry but your brother is right, your skirt does stink.
Raising My Rainbow 
I just discovered your blog via friends on FB and have read the whole thing. I’m in love with CJ and his brother. You and your husband are raising two wonderfully unique, caring “boys” that will grow up to be wonderful adults. I hope you continue to teach the world that we are all special in our own way…with much gratitude.
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I discovered your blog today and have read straight back to the beginning.
Just…thank you. Thank you for what you do to support your son, and thank you for sharing your life with us. I don’t know what else I can say.
Aloha CJ’s Mom 🙂 This comment has little to do with your post as something I saw on TV that made me think of you. I am a closet “Toddlers & Tiaras” fan (like Teen Mom, it slightly boosts my ego that I don’t steam roll my kids with my fantasies), but I digress 🙂 Anyway, there was a little boy featured this week named Brock whose Mom was quite amazing! Like CJ, Brock prefers sparkles & pretty to super hero & football. The director of the pageant was very supportive to, giving Brock the choice between the tiara & the crown (he chose the tiara). Your blog has really changed my POV on gender & children. I was really enjoying Brock & his Mom & to be quite honest, about a year ago they featured another little boy with similar qualities. I remember watching thinking “what a whack job trying to change her boy into a girl!” So thank you for really teaching me through your blog that these parents (in most cases…I do think there is the occasional fruit loop out there who never got their girl) are supporting who their child is & aren’t being anti establishment in their parenting.
Lastly, have you ever considered letting CJ try tap dancing? Based on some of your other posts I think it maybe an activity that he would really enjoy! Plus it is an activity where men have been very successful (Gregory Hines, Gene Kelly, etc…). It may go better than his foray into baseball 🙂 Take care!!!
ten millions thank you’s for writing this blog. Your child is going to grow up to
be a Fabulous Person.
I’m not trying to be rude, but isn’t it more likely that CJ is transgender?
Have you considered this?
Here is a link from a page on FB:
http://www.proudparenting.com/node/16332
Its about a young boy who might remind you of your son who has chosen to enter a beauty pageant.
Hahahaha! I love it! The very image of your “manly” husband being taught to hula by your little boy makes my heart burst with love for your family…and brings tears to my eyes cause it sounds so dang funny!!!
And to generalise what “from Kauai” said: nothing, ever, in the history of the world, is for males or females only.
I am from Kauai Hawaii. Just to let your readers know, Hula and grass skirts are not for females only. Aloha.