Real Dads Let Their Sons Do Their Makeup

For years, my son has been using my wife’s makeup to give his Barbie dolls makeovers and put makeup on a life-size mannequin head he got for Christmas a while back. Then he started doing my wife’s makeup regularly, so I figured it was inevitable that I would be his next victim.

IMG_9811A couple of years ago, C.J. asked if I would allow him to do my makeup. Of course I said yes. Why wouldn’t I? Why wouldn’t I want to be a part of something that brings joy to my son’s life?

If I said no to something as trivial as allowing him to paint my face, what would I be teaching him?

I’d be teaching him that playing dress-up or giving his dad a makeover is something to be ashamed of or something to hide. I don’t want to teach him that.

I want to teach him that his dad wants to spend time with him no matter what we’re doing. I want him to know that even though I’m not interested in makeup or fashion, I will play along as long as I get to sit and talk with him.

IMG_9821While he’s doing my makeup, he talks about everything. From what’s going on at school to which eye shadow brings out my blue eyes.

When I agree wholeheartedly as he discusses what makeup colors go with my skin tone, I’m teaching him that his opinions and tastes matter to me. I’m teaching him that I’ll listen to him when he wants to talk and I will find time for him even when I’m busy.

My son doing my makeup is the same as a dad throwing a football with his son. It’s not about what you are doing together; it’s about doing it together. It’s about encouraging your children to engage with you. It’s about spending time with your child doing something they enjoy doing.

Allowing your children to be themselves is very important. There are activities I do with Chase that I don’t do with C.J. because they aren’t fun for him. There are activities I do with C.J. that Chase doesn’t want to do. And, there are activities we all do together. Spending quality time with each of my sons helps strengthen my relationship with them.

IMG_9822When C.J. does my makeup, it makes me feel like I’m experiencing something with him that he loves doing. It makes me feel like maybe I’m encouraging and empowering him to have fun with something that may end up being his career as an adult. Or, it’s just something we can do together that shows him that his dad loves spending time with him no matter what we are doing.

He loves doing my makeup because he can make me look silly or dramatic and it cracks him up. Sometimes he takes it very serious, like he is really trying to make me look good. Other times it’s more of a face painting exercise than anything. Either way, he loves doing it and I love being a part of some type of activity that my son loves doing.

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81 Responses to Real Dads Let Their Sons Do Their Makeup

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  11. Brian Keith Martin says:

    Thanks for making an old man cry like a baby.

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  13. I just saw your family interview on Chelsea. It made me cry. Because I had an Uncle who I never knew about because the Fuller family, very Seventh Day Adventist would have rather keep his existence hidden than admit he was a cross dresser. When I was 42 after my father died (who was jack’s big brother) I saw a photo hidden away I had never seen. I said to my Mom, who is this. Oh, this is your Uncle Jack, he died when he was 20 in a mental hospital. He drowned. But your father said Jack was an excellent swimmer and could have never drowned. It seems my Uncle Jack was very artistic, effeminate, loved drama class, and wearing female clothing. But his father wanted to make a man out of him, through beatings, then military school. Finally a mental hospital. My Dad said there was nothing wrong with Jack. It was the parents and grandparents who just couldn’t except who he was. So thank you for being the kind of parent you are. If only Jack had been born to you two. I might have known him. https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.10150236552212195.369869.589812194&type=1&l=5f3402483e

  14. smaulanc says:

    You’re the kind of dad that my child has and I am so grateful.

  15. Stephen Lloyd says:

    Made me cry, too.

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  20. Christopher staples says:

    I think thus is wonderful. I wish I had a dad like you. You are special and I am glad you spend the quality time with your sons. Hats off to you sir. 🙂

  21. Bryan Haley says:

    Even though I’m quite a bit older, this made me cry, wishing I had a relationship like that with either of my parents when I was a kid. No matter what bad news you ever have to give them (i.e. “no we don’t have enough money to buy a new car for you”), they are always going to love you because you cared enough to spend time with them. You take an interest in their interests instead of trying to force them to be interested in something they couldn’t care less about. It’s a story like this that makes me think there is hope for the future.

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  24. Courtenay says:

    What a lovely read 😊 …. Thank you for sharing

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  28. Crissy says:

    You are totally the best dad ever. I love the fact you support your family and their choices.

    Bravo/Brava!

  29. Craig says:

    You are an amazing dad. You have to very lucky sons.

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