We’ve all read this story recently right?
One cent: The headline reads “Parents Keep Baby’s Gender Under Wraps,” when it should read “Parents Keep Baby’s Sex Under Wraps…And Let it Declare its Own Gender.”
Two cent: I wouldn’t make the parenting decision that they have made. But, then again, a lot of people don’t agree with my parenting decisions (e.g. this here blog you are reading).
What are your thoughts?
Now for the winner of the first-ever Raising My Rainbow giveaway! I instructed those who wanted to be entered to leave a comment at the end of last Thursday’s post. I received 44 comments. I wrote numbers one through 44 on a sheet of paper and had C.J. circle the number he liked best. He circled the number five first (then 22 through 24, 28 and 29). So congrats to the following commenter, I must say, by his comment, he is VERY deserving!
Greg (may 21,2001 at 6:43 p.m.) says:
If I get picked I will donate the book to the high school Library where I am a teacher. we had an incident this week where a closeted student was harassing another student about being gay. I think this book will help both of them.
Hey, are you all aware that Queerty.com is back online and Raising My Rainbow is back on Queerty? Spread the word and check out the new Queerty.
Have you found me on “The Facebook,” as C.J.’s Dad likes to call it? Facebook.com/RaisingMyRainbow. I’m on the Tweet Machine too (/RaisingRainbow), but I Facebook more. Additional tidbits on raising C.J. offered there, like when he put lip
gloss in his hair and readers helped me find a solution to get it out. BTW, acetone and rubbing alcohol good, dry shampoo bad.
Are you reading my posts regularly? You should subscribe. Do it at RaisingMyRainbow.com in the upper, right-hand corner. That would make you super cool and one of C.J.’s total besties.
Finally, what country are you reading from? If it’s not on this list let me know by posting a comment or sending me an e-mail or inviting me and my family for all-expense paid vacation to visit you and log the country personally.
- Costa Rica
- Trinidad and Tobago
- United States
- United Kingdom
I think you and your son CJ are awesome in Dubai in the UAE! Please keep on writing, I am loving your blog!
Started to read you 2 days ago with hope. :O) Loves from Turkey
Hi, I’m coming a little late to the game but enjoying very much, thank you. You’re raising your son exactly how I would want tobe raised and how I plan to raise my future gaybies. I am reading in Bangkok, Thailand. Yourself and CJ would be welcome with open arms in the land of smiles where CJ will find a lot of people he has things in common with when he’s all grown up.
Sunny South Africa…..
Mother of two small boys, age 2 and 11 months! Just come across your blog on Friday… Completely hooked! I’m reading you from the beginning and buying your book on Monday. Reading you from Portugal, You are an example everyone should follow – as a mother and as a human being. 🙂
Love your blog, You are a great mum.
Colombian ( not columbian) living in New Zealand 🙂
I am Italian 🙂
I would invite you there, but we don’t have space! 😦
I’ve started at the beginning and working my way through. Stumbled on your blog via a link on The Facebook and have been hooked ever since – your blog is open in the background on my PC all day and I pop to read some more whenever I have a gap, thank you 🙂
You have a dedicated South African fan 😉
Very late but very glad to have discovered you blog. New Zealander living in Poland
Months behind here, but this is too good to pass up! I live in a tiny community called Rainbow in the state of OR.
American girl living in the Netherlands as an au pair for the year here. 🙂 Love your blog!
Reading from Israel – love your blog!
I’m going trough your blog so I was waiting to get to your last post to say I you really are a great parent and wish you lot’s of luck
Love your blog. I´m from Ecuador, South America.
Belgium, EU 🙂
Reading in France!
Hi, I’m a new very dedicated reader, from today on I’d say! Haha, I just found your blog but I think it is the most amazing thing I have read in a long time!
I’m 17, soon 18, and reading this from Sweden!
Much love, Elin
I read in Hong Kong and my aunty reads in Taiwan.
I love your blog (from Switzerland)! 🙂
India loves you 🙂 come and visit..
You can add New Zealand here on the list too. Only came across this site today and I am amazed by you and your family (in a good way) I can only hope that I will be as awesome a mother when the time comes
Finding your blog fabulous from FINLAND!
Loving your blog from China!
Loving you in LITHUANIA!
i have stumbled upon your blog once before – today i subscribed to get updates on your wonderful adventure of raising two different and amazing kids – thanks for the smiles –
come visit us in Marrakech anytime!
Huge love and hugs to your Rainbow and yourself. Great blog! You’re read in SINGAPORE.
Hi, just came across your site from the NYT article – what a beautiful & welcoming space and home for your children. Your family seems to be doing a fabulous job of childraising!
Please add MALAYSIA to your list too now 🙂
Konnichiwa and arigatou from Japan! What a great website (and family) you have.
I just came across your site today, and it’s lovely. I’m in Great Falls, MT. My daughter is 7 and my son is almost 4, and if I’ve done nothing else in the guiding of my children, I know that they are aware that everyone is different and that is OK. My daughter has even stood up for kids at school who were being teased for what they liked, and my son thinks Lady Gaga is a superhero.
Anyway, keep it up.
With love from Hong Kong
Thanks a lot for blogging! I guess you have readers really all over the world, so maybe it’s nice to make a map out of your list?! In any case, you can add Latvia and Belgium too. 😉
Thanks CJ for the wonderful book.
And you can also add Austria to the list 😀 Thank you for your blog!
I’ve been reading here for a while and haven’t commented, but I have to make sure you know that your parenting is EXACTLY what your son needs. Every parent says kids don’t come with an instruction manual, and that’s true, so to some degree it’s up to people to make decisions they feel will benefit their children the most; your unconditional support of your son is worth a thousand other decisions. Whether he grows into or out of his gender nonconformity, he is going to need his momma at his back, ready to catch him when he gets knocked down.
I speak from experience; I was raised in a fairly conservative family and made the tough decision not to come out to my family until after I had turned eighteen, in order to prevent a worst-case scenario I had imagined in which I was forced into “reparative therapy.” My mother, though, reacted better than I could ever have imagined, and even expressed regret that she hadn’t known sooner so that she could be a part of my life to a greater extent. I very recently saw a serious relationship of over eighteen months end, and in the moment when I was shattered, the one person who was there to hold me, and tell me everything would be okay and that it just meant there was still someone perfect out there waiting for me, was my momma.
Your son will be lucky enough to know, through his whole life, that his mom is there for him, and loves him enough to let him define himself in spite of what anyone else thinks. He will know at every turn that even when his heart breaks, he is loved more than he can know, and it will give him more courage than you know.
hey, I miss a list of blogs from all the moms of these fabulous pink boys (unfortunatelly, I don´t have one myself…)
You can now add Portugal to the list ^.^
Love your blog 🙂
Yay! You put Greece on! Thanks 🙂
I don’t think I would have made the same decision either. But I am doing my best to raise in a gender-neutral way – but not in the sense that I want them to be without gender, just not anchored by existing gender-stereotypes.
I tell my daughter (5) and son (3,5) that we are different in our body parts but the heart doesn’t have a colour or gender, and neither does love.
Good luck to them though – and all of us 🙂
Lots (and I mean LOTS) of Love from Ireland, your a mighty Mother and CJ is a little rockstar =)
Don’t ever change
I’m from Sweden 🙂
I love your blog!!
I love your blog and I agree you speak so eloquently. I am here in the US. I tell everyone about your blog and feel it is so important and worthwhile! Keep it up! I do find it interesting that the couple is not telling anyone what gender their baby is…..will be interesting to see what unfolds!
Thanks for being such an amazing parent and advocate!
You can now add the Netherlands to the list. Great to read your adventures. Thanks.
As a 20-year old gay college student, you and your son have inspired me far beyond whatever gay community I’ve experienced thus far into my life. While I’m still not sure if I completely accept my homosexuality, you and CJ have given me insight into a life of freedom of expression and acceptance that I hope to embrace sometime in the near future and hope my parents also grow to love. Thank you so much for what you have done (and you who are); I can’t wait for your future updates!
Hello! From South Africa – you are doing a great job.
Hello from San Diego, CA! Keep up the good work hon!
You have Canada on your list, but you’d always be welcome out here on the prairies. My almost 5 year old son is pretty fabulous too and would have a great time playing barbies with C.J. 🙂
A big hello from the land of Oz. You already have us on your list. That said, if I had the finances, I would shout you and your family a trip to come and visit us, because I know my son would love to have a play date with CJ. 🙂
I love reading your blog (I wish I could be so eloquent), and I love your two cents too.
The Florida Keys in the USA 😉