How To Annoy Your Brother During A Sleepover

 

When you’re in middle school, there’s nothing better than a good sleepover – and there’s nothing worse than your pesky, gender nonconforming little brother annoying you during a sleepover.

Chase tries to plan a “Movie Night Sleepover” once every month or two. Last week, the event included two of his best buddies, a soak in the spa, pizza, a viewing of the movie Elf and video games.

IMG_7053When we first discovered that C.J. was gender nonconforming, we’d hide all of the “girl stuff” in our house when Chase had a friend over. A year or two later we refused to hide the “girl stuff” because of what that was teaching our boys, so we would ask Chase if his friends who were coming over knew that C.J. was gender nonconforming – giving Chase the option of telling them beforehand. Now, we don’t bother with any of that. We just answer questions as they come from new guests in our house – surprisingly, few have any questions.

The evening of Chase’s sleepover, his two friends arrived and changed into their trunks to head for the spa. They were putting their clothes in their backpacks and grabbing their towels when C.J. ran down the stairs wearing his favorite swimsuit – the one covered in rainbows and kittens — yelling “Boys! Here I come! I’m ready!”

Chase’s friends chuckled and Chase looked at me annoyed and worried that I’d let C.J. join them in the spa – where C.J. likes to wear his huge pink snorkel goggles and play with his Little Mermaid doll.

When I informed C.J. that he wasn’t going in the spa, but was going with me to pick up the pizzas instead, he was not thrilled.

After they ate a massive amount of pizza, Chase and his friends changed into their loungewear to settle in and watch (talk loudly through) the movie. C.J. promptly ran upstairs and threw on the white, faux-minx robe that he inherited from Nana — which he likes to put on at night after his warm bath and after applying his leave-in conditioner and throwing his hair up in a French twist.

IMG_5844C.J. came flowing into the room like an old-timey movie star in his robe carrying his monster high pillow. He was ready to claim his space on the couch and enjoy his favorite mango green tea in his Frozen cup.

Chase’s friends gave the same chuckle and Chase gave the same annoyed looked.

“C.J., you aren’t going to watch the movie with the guys,” I said as they all stared.

“Why? It’s not inappropriate for me! I’ve already seen it!” he declared dramatically.

Lucky for me (and Chase) I had just purchased Disney’s Inside Out as a surprise for C.J. to watch while we snuggled and ate popcorn in my bed upstairs.

After the movie, Chase and his friends retreated to his room to play video games for a bit. Lots of yelling, banging around and falling ensued behind Chase’s closed door. Apparently that’s how middle school boys play video games.

C.J. kept sneaking to Chase’s door and I caught him writing notes on his favorite fluorescent pink notepad and pushing them under the door. I could only imagine what he was writing.

I told him to stop annoying Chase and his friends and knocked on Chase’s door to retrieve the notes. Even my imagination couldn’t have dreamed up the messages C.J. felt instinctively compelled to send to middle school boys to coax them into interacting with him.

Adele lyrics.

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“What did your friends think of C.J.’s rainbow kitty swimsuit, fancy bathrobe and Adele lyrics last night?” I asked Chase the next day.

“Nothing. They have annoying little brothers and sisters, too,” Chase said. And that made me happy. C.J. wasn’t annoying because his gender expression is embarrassing to Chase. He’s annoying because all younger siblings are annoying to their older siblings.

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12 Responses to How To Annoy Your Brother During A Sleepover

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  3. trans_kid says:

    Love it.
    By the way, I know (from previous posts) you never assume one of your children is gay or straight. Like “do you like anyone in your class” versus “are there any girls you like.” Have you made it clear to them you’re totally cool with having an asexual kid as well? Probably unlikely, but still…

  4. Meyli says:

    Sounds like your average annoying younger sibling to me! I’m an oldest child myself 😉

  5. MM says:

    Can I have Chase be my older brother? I could sure use his wisdom and perspective!!!

  6. Ivy Willow says:

    That’s absolutely adorable! Little siblings are frustrating. I have one, I totally understand. ^.^ Congrats on the Upworthy and the interview with WordPress!

  7. How did CJ like Inside Out? I bet he is a fan of Joy 🙂

  8. Michelle says:

    Poor Emma not only got stuck with an annoying younger sibling but with friends who thought zie was “so cute” and couldn’t believe *he* would let them give *him* a makeover and wear a dress. I’d end up dragging Jeremy out while zie wailed, “but they want me to stay!!!”

    Also, for CJ…

    Why did Adele cross the road?

    She wanted to say hello from the other side 🙂

  9. Danna Furnace-Grimes says:

    I love this!! I wish I could love it a thousand times. THANK YOU I wish my 20 year old child felt as comfortable as CJ.

  10. Emily Bartusek says:

    Amazing. I wish my son Pax and CJ could hang out. 🙂

  11. Bennett says:

    The Adele lyrics!!!!!! CJ’s state might best be delineated as “Pronounced Actressism: Norma Desmond Variant” (I jest: he is perfect, needs no delineation and makes me happy every time I read your accounts of his exploits.)

  12. sweetsound says:

    I love the “what what” at the end of the message!

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