Our Month(s) in Review: June and July 2017

Following are highlights (lowlights not included!) from our months on Instagram. Click here for all of the months’ pictures, thoughts and happenings. If you’re on Instagram, follow me. If you already follow me, thanks!

C.J. leaves this message wherever he can. Here, he wrote it in chalk on the floor of a busy restaurant that encourages patrons of all ages to draw on the floor. Every time he leaves his “be yourself” message out in public, part of me thinks that someone who needs the message will happen upon it after we leave. But, most of all, I hope that C.J. always feels pride when it comes to the things that make him different and that he’ll always feel brave enough to be himself.


With no summer camp this week, my son has spent a lot of time drawing his favorite superheroes.


Serving everyone the “Pride Eye.” According to C.J., his “Pride Eye” look is inspired by the colors he saw at Pride this year, cotton candy, unicorns, love and happiness.


Sometimes, to celebrate the end of a rough week, you find the closest Pride, buy two train tickets, travel two hours and then…you march.


“What should I do now?,” C.J. asks at least once a day because he knows if he tells me he’s bored I’ll tell him only boring people can be bored. “Why don’t you sew something? The machine is out,” I said the other day. At age 10, he knows his way around the machine just as well as I do. He made this skirt in an afternoon.


This week C.J. added contortionist to the list of things he wants to be when he grows up. We encourage and empower young girls. We tell them they can be whatever they want to be when they grow up. Make sure we do the same for boys. C.J.’s list of future professions includes: artist, makeup artist, drag queen, Olympic gymnast, hair stylist, contortionist, RuPaul’s Drag Race judge, AGT judge, Cupcake Wars judge.


It’s C.J.’s last day of sewing camp. He made lots of friends and lots of drag queens. Here’s his felt Sasha Velour. The employees at our local Joann’s Store were so supportive and encouraging of C.J. – who was the only boy enrolled in sewing camp. They told him that they see a future for him on Project Runway. They were even more complimentary of Matt, who took C.J. into the store an hour before each day of camp to pick out new fabric, notions and patterns. “It’s so great to see a dad in here buying fabric for his son and encouraging him to sew. A lot of dads wouldn’t do that,” they said to Matt. They’re right and I’m glad they gave Matt the kudos he deserves. He’s the best dad. (But, this also got me thinking, how come I’ve been celebrated for taking Chase shopping at a sporting goods store?)


I spoke at Aetna today about raising a gender creative child. The Q&A session that followed was the most emotional I’ve experienced in a while. It was a reminder that you never know what the other people in the room or your co-workers are going through. Be nice to people, listen and practice empathy.


This week C.J. is the only boy at sewing camp. He’s also the only one who made a Violet Chachki hand puppet.


Yesterday I spent the afternoon speaking at the Orange County Bar Association about raising a gender creative child and provided thoughts and guidance for interacting with children of all gender identities and expressions. What a great group of caring and inquisitive people!


C.J.’s perfect summer day includes having his three best girl friends over to jump on the trampoline, swim and do makeup. “Let me show you a trick I learned from drag queens,” I heard him say several times during their makeup session.


I was cooking dinner and noticed I was all alone downstairs and the house had grown very quiet. Then, Matt texted me this pic from upstairs. C.J. had been doing makeup all weekend. Just when he thought he was running out of willing faces, he asked Matt. And, Matt said yes. Like he always does.


And, yes, I absolutely did immediately come to the defense of women everywhere and make it very clear that women are strong and fierce protectors. It didn’t matter. He still wants a husband instead of a wife.

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17 Responses to Our Month(s) in Review: June and July 2017

  1. May says:

    Ha I love Chase’s declaration that he needs a husband! (Tell him I have a wife, and I am her fiercest protector – though I be but little, yet I am fierce!)

  2. David A Morse says:

    Chase was as determined to set mom “straight” at 10, he wanted it clear he likes girls. Lori and Matt are raising two confidant men

  3. Jessica L says:

    I don’t read regularly, but I do enjoy coming here every so often and seeing how CJ is doing. I’ve said this before, but I feel it’s always worth reiterating: it’s fantastic how wonderful you all are for him and for each other. I find it so encouraging how many kids are being raised with a healthy sense of normalcy in variation. Thank you for sharing, and thank you for teaching. Cheers!

  4. bev says:

    Thank you for sharing your post, I had a great time reading it. Cj is amazing, keep it up.

  5. This was a heartfelt post. Gay or not, we all have a right to be who we are, to have freedom. Nobody deserves to be judged for who they are, we should accept everyone. I’m not gay myself, but this post will mean a lot to who that are. 🏳️‍🌈 💞👬 👭

  6. This was such a fun read. I enjoy seeing true stories of life, love, and support. You are an amazing mom, woman, and I support you and C.J. with every step. Every one deserves to be themselves and life their life.

  7. LRich20 says:

    Reading this reminds me of my own son who is gay, is a gymnast and a contortionist who sews his and his female partner’s costumes, among other things. And just so you know, There are paying gigs for contortionists.

  8. Katherine says:

    CJ should be a drag queen who also acts as a makeup artist for special events. He’ll become a famous drag queen, known for contortionist tricks, and will be asked to be a judge for RuPaul’s Drag Race. During this time, he’ll appear as a Cupcake Wars guest judge.

  9. Sister Unity says:

    The violet chachki doll made me tear up.

  10. Ellen Bekier says:

    Always inspired when reading your blog. Your husband is one of a kind….both your kids are so fortunate to have the two of you to be their parents!!

  11. LoriT says:

    “Be yourself” should be every person’s mantra. “Respect others” should also be on the list.
    I love your posts. It makes me smile and gives me hope for my grandson’s future.

  12. Lawrences7987 says:

    This post was the best way to start my day. Thank you so much for sharing. 🌈🌈

  13. The B Side says:

    Just letting you know that I love following along with you guys. I hope what’s left of the summer goes swimmingly.

  14. Monica says:

    I so love your posts – they keep me inspired that this beautiful bunch of care, kind and loving people will be the change we need in our world! Thank you for sharing your life with me and all!

  15. mdaniels4 says:

    And by gosh, that’s just fine too. As long as he’s himself.

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